LEARN HOW YOU CAN WIN BACK YOUR EX
Why would anyone want to get their ex back? Why would you want to take back someone who walked out on you? Why would you want to start a relationship that already ran its course? Why would you want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you? These are all legitimate questions that some people have about reconciliation but not those who haven’t brought themselves to let go.
Whether you want him or her back because you are still in love or because you want to enjoy the feeling of watching them come back and then letting them go, this article will help you learn how you can achieve that. After a breakup you are hurt, emotionally drained and most of all, confused and during this state of confusion, you are bound to make a lot of mistakes that will actually hurt your chances of getting them back
My name is MR SOFT, and I am here to get you through this painful breakup and hopefully get your ex back. I can guarantee that if you follow these rules that I’m going to give, your chances of getting your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend back will increase significantly.
#RULE 1, NO CONTACT
The mistake of calling and texting an ex all the time is the story of 80% of the people who are desperate to get their ex back. It’s a huge mistake to text and call your ex even once. Your instincts tell you that if you stay in contact with your ex, they will not forget about you and hopefully come back. Your instinct also tells you that you are being mature about the breakup, but it doesn’t really work that way.
No contact rule is simple and very effective. All you have to do is; stop all the communication with your ex for a period of time. This includes no Calling, no Texting, no social media contact of any kind, no “accidentally” bumping into them.. you know what that means, no hanging out with common friends in hopes of meeting your ex. every time you call or text your ex, you are showing them you are a needy person and you are miserable without them. This neediness is unattractive and pushes your ex further away. If you don’t contact your ex, you will give them time to miss you more and they will be wondering all the time why you are not contacting them. Do not tell them that you are observing the no contact rule. You want to be on your ex’s mind as much as you can and telling them you are not contacting for some time will defeat this purpose. The no contact period should be as long as it takes you to get yourself together and feel great about your life without your ex. In my experience, it can take up to 30 days. However, in extreme cases, it could range from anywhere from 2 months to one year.
#RULE 2 NO DRINKING
You should be extremely careful whenever you go out drinking. You might end up calling your ex and making a fool of yourself. Here is an advice: stay away from alcohol but if you can’t, have a friend with you who can stop you from making this mistake. You need to learn to use the no contact rule time to get a hold of yourself and gain some perspective. The fact is, you are a mess after the breakup and you need to calm down and analyze your relationship thoroughly to realize whether or not being with your ex is in your best interest. You should make a lot of positive changes in your life. When you meet your ex after the no contact period, you want them to be attracted to you. You need to prove to yourself that you can be happy and successful without your ex, get a new hairstyle, something trendy, get your teeth cleaned, new clothes etc. . You will eventually realize that you don’t need your ex to be happy. Maybe you’ll still want them, but there is a big difference between needing something and wanting something. Don’t take this point lightly, stay away from drinking and drugs. This could be the difference between getting your ex back or losing them forever.
#RULE 3: NO BEGGING OR TRYING TO USE PITY
If begging worked after a breakup, no one will ever break up with anybody. They decided to leave you and they are prepared to go. Whatever the reason for breakup was, it’s not going to change with your begging. The only thing that begging will do is make you look like a weak and insecure person. Similarly, your instincts will also make you believe that if you just show your ex that you can’t live without them, they will take you back. Your thought pattern becomes something like “If he knows how miserable I am without him and how much I love him, he will come back.” Trust me no one takes their ex back out of pity. No one is attracted to someone who is miserable and even if your ex came back because of this, do you really want them to be with you just because of pity? Or do you want them to respect and love you? Your instincts will tell you that if you just agree to everything your ex wants, they will come back. Your instincts will tell you that your needs, values, desires and goals don’t matter. Your instincts will tell you that the only thing that matters is to get your ex back and for that, you can sacrifice everything. The truth is, they already know that you love them, how much you adore them and how much you care about them but they still decided to breakup.
#RULE 4, LEARN TO LET THEM GET A REBOUND AND SO SHOULD YOU:
The thought of your ex being with someone else is a pain in the skull. But in reality, it’s not that bad as we make it out to be. The truth is, your ex is most probably in a rebound relationship and almost all of the rebound relationships end sooner rather than later. If you and your ex were in a serious relationship, then they will not be able to move on so quickly. Rebound relationships are a way for many people to deal with breakups. Fortunately for you, it’s one of the most ineffective ways to move on. So, just because they are in a rebound relationship doesn’t mean they will forget about you and move on. In fact, it just means the opposite. It means that they are having a hard time moving on and as long as they are in this rebound relationship, they can’t work on moving on with their life. The most important thing for you to do while your ex is in a rebound relationship is be cool about it. Whatever happens, do not tell your ex to break up with their rebound partners and get a rebound yourself but keep it secret, and don’t rub it in your ex’s face. Let it be their idea that you are single. They have a huge hole in their life after breaking up with you which they are trying to fill with someone new. They will soon realize that a rebound relationship cannot fill the emptiness and they will end the relationship.
Before you contact your ex, here is a checklist of things you need to make sure you’ve done
*You are no longer a mess as you were after the breakup
*You have made a few positive changes in your life.
*You are absolutely sure that getting back with your ex is a good decision.
*You have gone on a date at least once.
*You have accepted the breakup and you are ok with the fact that you may never get back your and these rules might never work for you.
WHAT IF YOU HAVE ALREADY BROKEN THE RULES?
Chances are, you’ve broken at least one of these rules after the breakup. Don’t worry, even the wisest monks and masters of Psychology usually end up making these mistakes after a breakup. It’s just in the nature of humans beings to try and hold on to something that is precious to them. So don’t beat yourself over it. The most important thing for you to do right now is to move on to the next rule or start all over. It will repair all the damages you have caused.